Posts Tagged ‘Acceptance’
Sharing the Shame
Mortified: connecting with others to find relief from shame When I was 15, I wrote some pretty silly things in my diary (because I was 15). When I was 17, I went back through those entries and edited them, leaving critical comments about my intelligence and maturity as a 15 year old. Actually, a big chunk…
Just get over it vs. I love you and I am with you
I have two young sons and sometimes one of them will throw a knock-down-drag-out-tantrum and I can feel the internal dialogue inherited from my family in my head screaming: “Shut up! Get over it kid!” Sometimes I am less than attuned, and while I don’t say “shut up,” my body posture or a flip comment probably…
The River of Grief: Pain That Teaches
Most of us are not very good at grieving. We deny loss, we judge emotions, we fear getting lost or stuck, or “wallowing,” or we fear judgment or unsupportiveness from others. Maybe it’s the legacy of eons of human history in which we were so exposed to disease, social chaos, natural disasters, psychological trauma, and…
The Importance of Pleasure
… the key to deeply experiencing pleasure is to be present with and consciously taking in what we are experiencing. Look around you at any moment of the day and notice what you like, however small. – Kristin Young Pleasure. Our culture offers it at every turn with entertainment and access to experiences of all…
Working With Your Life
“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself” -Andy Warhol Once, a few decades ago, a meditation teacher I knew talked of the importance of ‘working with your life’. He said it casually, off-handedly, in the way that he said most everything. This from a guy who had been…
Free to Just Be
Author: Tom Rhodes, MFT Website: www.selfinquirytherapy.com It’s been a little while since I’ve written a blog here. I’ve been experiencing a bit of what you could call writer’s block. I began to get curious about what was happening there, so I decided to sit down and inquire into that experience, not from the mind, but…