Posts by Pilar Dellano
A Hater’s Guide To New Year’s Resolutions (a.k.a. Self-improvement through self-acceptance)
Shame is not usually the best motivator to change. Self acceptance is the magic elixir of change.
(Wo)man Versus Ex: Retroactive Jealousy and What to do About it.
Ever seethed with hatred over an ex-girl/boyfriend of your partner? Pilar Delano helps us understand and navigate the rough waters of retroactive jealousy.
Our Time is Up: How to Dump Your Therapist (as written by one)
All relationships must come to an end. Even the ones that last forever. Even those that rack up grandkids, and anniversaries. Those end too. And if we don’t die, we break up, divorce, take space, drift away, cheat, or consciously uncouple over a bed of gluten free ziti. Our relationships with our therapists are no…
When Sharing is Scaring: How to Deal with Your Partner’s Sexual Past
It’s probably safe to assume that the person you’re currently sleeping with slept with someone else before you, but learning about their sexual past can be a tricky issue. In fact, they might have slept with someone else immediately before sleeping with you, if you’re not monogamous. It might also be safe to assume that…