Posts Tagged ‘love’
Searching for the One that Got Away
Lily*, a driven, animated, and passionate 34 year-old designer, wants to be, do, and see everything that life has to offer. Whether she’s kicking with her friends, spending time with family or leading her design team, she’s 100% engaged. She’s driven when she has a goal and because she desires marriage and a family, she…
What I Learned When My Wife Broke Both Her Wrists
It’s amazing how many things we do with our hands every day that we take for granted. It brings up that old adage that you don’t know what you’ve got until you lose it. Through the grace and fortune of some of the best medical care on the planet, my wife, Elizabeth, will eventually get…
Give Love, Get Love: 7 Things I’ve Learned About Love Since My Divorce
Call me crazy, but I’m getting married again. It’s been almost 10 years since my divorce. Reflecting on the relationships of those years I can see that I’ve been through different phases: dating for a confidence boost (while being totally unavailable); trying to ‘keep it light’ (while being invested enough to get hurt); being in…
Romance Hangover
Romance Hangover – When the things you thought would get you in the mood actually left you feeling sluggish, irritable, and generally disappointed. Oh, and mildly ashamed. Welcome to the day after Valentine’s Day! Seriously, why is it so hard to create satisfying romantic moments on demand? Consider how we developed our early ideas of…
Easier to Give Than to Receive
Experiment here with me for a moment… I want you to imagine someone you love sitting in front of you. Now imagine sending love towards them. How do you send those love vibes out? Do they come through your eyes, from your heart space, from your gut? Does it feel easy to do this? Familiar?…
Trusting Love on Huffington Post This Week
If this time in history is a Tower of Babel, with twenty contradictory perspectives being dumped into your Facebook feed or cable channels daily, it only stands as a magnification of the human dilemma of what is true, trustworthy, and what is to be believed. We are deluged in perspectives, externally from media, family, culture,…
Falling In Love In Therapy
There’s sort of a cliche about falling in love with your therapist. What popular culture often misses is the fact that we therapists fall in love with you, too. If you’re in therapy right now, I would put money on the fact that your therapist is in love with you.
What are we really fighting about? How to fight the good fight with your spouse.
Recently my beloved and I were at the grocery store, shopping for a dinner party. We have done this before but something about this outing was different. “We already have an onion,” my partner said to me in the produce section, followed up by, “We don’t need that large a chocolate cake—let’s buy the smaller cheesecake…
Self-Compassion and Love – Agents of Change
When I hear the saying, “Treat others as you would like to be treated” I can’t help but think we should also say, “Treat yourself as you would like others to treat you.” I witness over and over again in the therapy office how unkind we can be to ourselves and how this lack of…