Posts by Tom Rhodes
#TBT on Psyched: Single Men Dating in the Modern World
Gender roles and our lifestyle make dating a brand new unknown.
The Meaning of Transpersonal Experience
Fellow weary travelers, what are we running from? Perhaps you already know what I’m talking about. At least in a vague sense, many of us, if we’re honest, have had some underlying sense of avoiding or defending against difficult emotions. Our minds are not all that comfortable with some parts of ourselves. And this tugs…
Single Men Dating in the Modern World
Things are different than they used to be. Have you noticed? For men. For women. For all of us, traditional gender roles and expectations are collapsing, being renegotiated, tweeked, and yet clung to and reinvigorated, often all from the perspective of the same person! To say the least, it can be confusing. This blog article…
A Few Ways of Inviting Connection & Intimacy
This blog will be light on the prose and heavier on just a few exercises/tips/doorways into a fuller heartfelt connection with yourself, or with your intimate partner. It is also worth mentioning that greater intimacy with self always has a positive impact on your openness to intimacy, vulnerability, and thus connection, with another, from the…
When Love Isn’t Enough – The Open Secret of Conflict in Couples
Of course, true love is always enough when it comes to our relationship with ourselves, but what of it in the case of intimate relationship with a partner, husband or wife? In this realm of relationship with another, our underlying, undying love for each other may just not be enough in itself to sustain the relationship…
What is Awake and Aware Right in the Middle of This Experience?
What is awake and aware right in the middle of this experience? Let’s say it’s a tinge of sadness you’re experiencing. Letting that be just as it is, neither turning the volume on it up nor down, inquire. Then just really feel it consciously, from that non-locatable center. When fully inspected, this question can be…
Being Single
If you are single, in one sense you are alone. And yet you are not alone. Many, many people, right now as you are reading this, are single right along with you. Unfortunately, there is a pretty potent stigma attached to this state of relationship. A lot of shame and yearning can come from not…
Different Strokes for Different Feelings
Tom Rhodes, MFT Feelings show up, they come, they go. This is an inevitable part of life, of being human. To the degree that we fight them, we suffer, either in the moment or later on. -Tom Rhodes, MFT Author: Tom Rhodes, MFT www.selfinquirytherapy.com Feelings show up, they come, they go. This is an inevitable…
Free to Just Be
Author: Tom Rhodes, MFT Website: www.selfinquirytherapy.com It’s been a little while since I’ve written a blog here. I’ve been experiencing a bit of what you could call writer’s block. I began to get curious about what was happening there, so I decided to sit down and inquire into that experience, not from the mind, but…
Bipolar – A Transpersonal & Existential Perspective
Author: Tom Rhodes, MFT Website: www.selfinquirytherapy.com Let me start by making it very clear that I see bipolar disorder on a continuum, holding the polarities of expansion and contraction. This is a ride we all go on, as a natural pendulum swing of being here, on Earth, with a body and a mind. It’s very…
Paradigm Shift – Thriving On Our Fullness
Author: Tom Rhodes, MFT Website: www.selfinquirytherapy.com It feels safe to say that the vast majority of us have been indoctrinated into many paradigms through which we see the world, including our very selves. Some of these paradigms serve us, and some not so much. I have become starkly aware of a paradigm that not only…
Dialectical Cognitive Therapy
You may or may not have heard of dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT). In a nutshell, this is a psychotherapeutic modality focusing on behaviors that are not helpful in getting one’s needs met in relationships and life at large and are often destructive. My sense is that the focus in this form of therapy is not the…