OH MAMA!
How to Deal with Mom Guilt
“I let my one-year-old watch TV so I can shower.” “My kids subsist on macaroni and cheese and graham crackers.” “Our three year old still sleeps in bed with us.” “I used the cry-it-out method to get my daughter to sleep at night.” “I went back to work when my baby was just 6 weeks…
How to Co-Parent Peacefully After a Divorce
We have heard it too many times. The decision for couples with kids to break up happens, and the shit hits the fan. Wars over money, time with the kids, new partners, and parenting styles go from 0 to 60, and the ones who suffer most are the kids. Our culture wasn’t given a road…
To Have or Have Not: Regretting the Child Choice
“I don’t think I would… No. Sometimes, I do.” Olivia,* was silent for a long moment. It hung between us, this silence. Then, finally, “If I could wave a magic wand and make this all go away, I would.” Were she talking about kidney stones, or credit card debt, we would all nod along, reassured…
What if She Turns Out Like Me? Braving Toxic Anxiety as a New Mom
It can be very hard to see our own suffering as gifts. I will cut right to the chase. I wish with all my heart it were different, but I have found in my work with mothers that many use the suffering they’ve faced as the foundation for self-criticism and hatred. For some, it becomes…
Motherhood as a Rite of Passage
The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. ~Rajneesh Look I remember when I was a brand new first-time mom, like four days brand new, and went to a new mom group. I was in…